Are You Gonna Buy Something Or Did You Just Came In For A Stroll??? (also, Clean Your Feet Next Time)

I've been needing to read something like this. This made me so hopeful.

Hey, allo anon with an ace partner here. I wanted to say thank you so much for the well wishes! I figured I would send this in here again, so anyone else who is curious about what this experience looks like from the other side can see it.

My girlfriend came out to me a little over 2 years into our relationship. At the time it surprised me a lot, because she'd never given me any signs that she wasn't enjoying what we were doing. After we talked more I understood that she wasn't repulsed by sex and she didn't hate it, but she didn't really love it either and wanted to stop doing it for a while (so a sex-neutral ace).

Honestly, at the time, I did get anxious about it. Not just because of social conventions, but because I had viewed sex as an important bonding part of our relationship. I don't do well with change, and I was super worried about how a lack of sex would change our dynamic. I also had some insecurities about my own body, and my girlfriend admitting that she didn't see me as sexy was upsetting. But after speaking to my therapist, I realized that I was projecting my own issues on to the relationship. So I spoke with her again, and she reassured me that she wanted to be with me, and that she was confiding these feelings because she trusted me. She likes how I look, she just doesn't have the same sexual impulses I do.

So, I realized this was pretty much like cuddling. I love physical touch a lot, and I want to cuddle for a much longer time than she does. I like it when someone lies on top of me. She doesn't want me on top of her chest during cuddling. She still cuddles with me, but she tells me when she's satisfied, and we stop.

A few months went by, and I noticed that she wasn't spending any less time with me; she was actually spending more. We would still call every evening when we didn't meet up in person, we would still joke around, and she still told me she loved me and did everything she could to show it to me. We also began trying out new stuff together, and playing games and watching stuff more often. We also still had plenty of physical intimacy with things like cuddling and kissing, which made me really happy.

I realized that I didn't feel like anything was missing from the relationship. I just needed her to show and tell me she loved me in the ways she normally did. Sure, I am still attracted to her that way, but it wasn't something that would make or break the relationship.

It's been years since she came out, and at this point, I never expect anything sexual. It happens rarely, and I always check in with her multiple times before and during. We stop at any point she tells me. There are quite a few hard boundaries about what is and isn't off limits, and I always keep them in mind. I would rather satisfy myself forever than make her uncomfortable, and she knows it.

It's been over 5 years and we are still going strong. I am hoping to ask her to marry me in the next few years, because honestly, I can't picture wanting anyone else by my side. She is kind, funny, beautiful, intelligent, and treats me well. I could never ask for anything more from a partner.

Thank you SO MUCH for sharing. I myself definitely lack knowledge of what it feels like from an allo's perspective, so this was very educational for me, but beyond that... You have no idea how much hope this gives me.

From you being aware of how much sex meant to you in the context of your relationship and still being fine without it, to just... Heck, even your therapist for not blaming her for the situation. Therapy is still very much, in my country at least, an area where the absence or lower levels of sexual attraction will be hastily labelled as something wrong physically or mentally, so... Yeah, the amount of relief I felt reading that, you have no idea. And I can only imagine how much your partner appreciates it too.

Honestly I teared up a bit reading this - I sincerely wish you guys all the best and I hope you have a bright future ahead! (Also fun fact, seems you guys have been together as long as my partner and I have, it's nice to be able to relate to that too hehe^^)

Completed on Dec. 24th. 2023 Spent all night working on this! Happy I got it done and drew something, especially of me no less!

I remembered doodling this awhile back and I just remembered how easily I get into this loop of autism meltdowns

Idk do you guys relate to this type of endless cycle where whenever something bad happens or when you screw up you get upset or feel awful but then gets distracted/calms down and then feels okay but then you remembered something that’s been bugging you and then you get to square one?

I just wanna know if anyone else experienced stuff like this cuz like, I wanna know, nerodivergent folks! Ooor is this just a me thing idk.

also whenever I’m in a good enough headspace, I can talk more about how I unironically relate to the awful instrumental from parappa the Rappa 2 and just over analyze it from an autistic person’s pov

oh, hey, just saw you are streaming! could you make a casper Plush for Flethermouse? this is her character, Casper https://toyhou.se/13042015.casper https://www.furaffinity.net/user/fleder-maus/

Live stream time. Going to be streaming for 2 hours today so come and join! If you want to see a character sculpted reblog this post with a full body colored ref and ill put it on the list.

Live Stream: https://www.twitch.tv/yeeshastone/about

Favorite drawings of 2021 ♥️ Thank you for coming along on this ride with me!

Rotoscopy is truly the lowest form of art. Here’s Mosfet, my Twilight Domain Cleric, and he is here to chew bubblegum, talk about theology and prove that he is not a weak tiny lizard, and he already ate the bubblegum because he didn’t know you are supposed to chew it and not eat it like a candy!!!!

Dragons are so dramatic 🙄

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Man, I love your style, and congrats on the 1000 followers! you deserve it!

didn’t know id hit a high following like this at some point, ty! I’m doing my first art raffle on here for it! 

 to participate, just leave a comment/ask a follow or reblog, once November 10th 2021 CST arrives ill announce the winners and they’ll be contacted!

Rewards! the 1st place winner gets a fullbody, the 2nd place winner gets a half body and 3rd place gets a headshot!

Rules! i can maybe draw humans/humanoids but I’m totally fine with furries.

i cant and wont do nsfw, armored, mechas and other stuff I’m not comfortable drawing

Anyone needs a boss melted?

Man, they nerfed Lunafaction??? I've only played destiny for a short while, between forsaken and the season of opulence, but my favorite combo was always Merciless + Lunafaction. Who needs Whispers when you have these two?

Im WAY happier with this drawing than with the rest of my inktober ones, but those where experimental and took like... i dunno, a quarter of the time of this one

Cris the Moth!

A friend encouraged to make a moth, so, i decided to get a burger, and when I came back, @bun0nthemoon had posted a pic of their moth was eating a burger... it was a sign! I had to do this

while coloring, I pasted a ref on the wrong layer... and wow, this is me when i get to eat a burger: