A Scene In The Bear That Never Fails To Fuck Me Up Is The Scene In The Finale Where Carmy Gets Locked

Listen I know he’s not perfect but there’s not a lot of competition

The Bear s3 ep1 script leak

“We know who the lightning thief is!”

Luke, knowing full well it was his ass who stole Zeus’ bolt

Current stress level: Carmy berzatto at any given point

I need Fak and everyone else to stop speaking for Carmy and for Carmy to stop letting people speak for him and tell him how to feel. Carmy’s a grown ass man capable of speaking for himself and i need everyone to start acting like it

Ares, Percy Jackson and the Olympians

WOODSTOCK N SNOOPY X THE BEAR CINEMATIC UNIVERSE

Sydcarmy has fully ruined my brain because I’ll be listening to any song ever and suddenly it’s about them

Sometimes I remember that no one in Carmy’s family ever really acknowledged all of his work as a Chef (except for Pete/Nat and that one cousin) and every thing it took for him to earn all of those accolades. They all seemed more upset that he left home rather than being proud of his success in his field. So when Syd came along, full of adoration for Carmy, his craft and all of the hard work he put into it, that must’ve been absolutely jarring for Carmy. Especially when she defended him against Richie when he called Carmy’s experiences in all of the different restaurants he worked in around the world stupid. imagine working in a field as thankless as culinary, working in multiple different restaurants around the world, receiving many awards, giving everything you have, being torn down every single day by your god awful boss telling you you’re not good enough and a million other terrible things, only to go home and be shamed for pursuing your passion and not even receiving an ‘I’m proud of you” or a “good job”. Until one person comes along and she admires you so deeply, she knows you as “the best CDC in the best restaurant in all of the U.S.”, and you made her the best meal she’s ever had. And all of the sudden for the first time in your life someone recognizes all of your hard work, all of your accomplishments, they acknowledge all of your successes in a way no one else really has, and they see you. This is what Syd did for Carmy, she saw every part of him, including all of his work as a chef when nobody else did and that shit makes me cry every time I remember it.

Actually The Bear is a really good case study on trauma being deemed as abhorrent when it’s not presented in a pretty or digestible way within media including how characters who struggle with it are seen as unlovable. Particularly within Carmen’s character and the audience’s response to his behavior in season 3. Let me start this off by saying I’m not trying excuse any of Carmy’s actions throughout s3, I’m just acknowledging that trauma and it’s effects on the traumatized individual as well the effects on people in their life are complex and unpredictable, furthermore, people who haven’t experienced trauma tend to be more judgmental than compassionate towards them. Carmy is no different; him exhibiting this behavior and a certain part of The Bear fanbase choosing to ignore his past or just plain forgetting it and acting he’s like the worst person to have ever existed for having trauma and experiencing many of it’s ugly side effects. I firmly believe that a big part of this reaction is because many people lack nuance in media and an understanding that nothing is ever truly black and white. There are many shades of grey within humanity and The Bear is one of the few pieces of media that does a wonderful job of showing that. It’s glaringly obvious that Carmy has a multitude of issues that need to be addressed before he can run a successful restaurant and maintain healthy relationships. But None of that makes him an irredeemable or horrible person. It makes him a flawed human being that needs help who is also deserving of love and support. Trauma is far from beautiful and I’m tired of people acting like it needs to be portrayed in media in a sanitized way that erases all the hardships that come with it because they feel uncomfortable when they’re shown the gritty, raw, vulnerable truth of what trauma really is; of what it really does to a person. Carmy is no exception, he is struggling with his mental health in a way that is not pretty and wrapped up in a bow and people can’t handle it because we’re being shown the reality of it. He is angry, lashing out, spiraling, handling his emotions the only way he knows how by throwing himself into his work. I won’t deny that he has treated the people in his life poorly and he will need to earn their forgiveness in his own time. Yet none of that makes him any less worthy of love and patience. He needs professional help but he will only reach out when he’s ready too and even then it won’t go away over night. It can take months, and possibly years to truly heal from every thing he’s been through and after all of that he will still have bad days and he will still be just as worthy of love on those days as he is on the good ones. Struggling with trauma will never make anybody underserving of being treated with kindness or compassion and it will never make anyone any less worthy of being loved.