Day 9/100 Of Productivity

mister president, have we considered fucking and sucking the russians?

Me talking to the small part of my brain that is me but wants to do something I know will end up bad just so when it does end up bad I don't need to blame myself✌️👇-

(photos by Bill Watterson and an octopus)

nov 06, '22: exam season again. making a list of all the topics i need to study. it's stressful tbh, but i hope to do better//

In 1995 Elif Batuman started her first year at Harvard; she was in love with fiction and determined to become a writer. The child of immigrants from Turkey, she had a first name that was unfamiliar in New Jersey, where she grew up, and which had to be constantly spelled out and explained. She has said since that its four letters suggest a fitting joke about writerly aspiration: if the initial desire in a novel is to capture all of life, what is actually produced is just another set of words, a file.

01.09.2022

train rides & cafés beloved

to do list? done! (well had to push some stuff but the important stuff)

wildly dancing to: family ties - bastille

@erendeer I'm glad people are saying it more. Growing up, it was hard to choose what opinions and ideas to support and rally after until I learnt to think and analyse. I used to think that the actual idea of feminism is about fighting for women's right, it changed when I learnt we're all allowed to expand our ideals rather than be limited by what the majority stands for. Now, my feminism stands for rights for everyone, an existence for everyone where they don't have some basic facilities because it's not normative behaviour- be it Trans-men's reproductive rights, women's rights for bodily autonomy, men's rights to an openly emotional existence; hell I'm up for anybody's right to a fundamentally humane existence.

Something I've observed is that bold challanges regarding rights related to gender make people react.... righteously indignant. And being threatened by the word 'rights' is the prime reason. 'Rights' provide personal choices to people, choices that allow them self expression; but 'Rights' aren't seen as such, not always.

I'm not a conservative, never have been. So I wasn't scared of 'rights' ever, but I will admit rights and men in the same sentence did scare me for a while, only because I was equating all men to the hardcore conservative assholes (just like many men equate all feminists to radical feminists). And giving such men more rights didn't seem safe. But I learnt how wrong I was, how many nuanced personalities men have too.

It's helpful to see people around you as humans rather than just men, women, trans or any other gender. Seeing them as humans allow us to empathize better, and be different that what we stand against.

You know what? Fuck you. I am a "men's rights activist."

I'm for trans men having gender-affirming marks on identification and paperwork and still being able to access OBGYN and pregnancy care, and contraceptives.

I'm for all men's restrooms including baby changing stations, because fathers exist and need to change their babies.

I'm for black men having a voice and being seen and heard, and not assumed to be predators for being both black and men.

I'm for fathers gaining custody of their children in the face of a court system which favors the mother, stating that a child should "never be without their mother," granting custody to even the abusive mothers while taking it away from their fathers.

I'm for boys receiving both 'boy' sex education and 'girl' sex education, so they know how periods and pregnancy actually work.

I'm for boys and men giving and receiving emotional checkups, hugs, and everything soft because boys and men both deserve softness. Boys and men deserve to express their emotions healthily. To know how to express emotions healthily.

Men deserve access to care, patience, love and kindness.

This is entirely reasonable as an argument. U see sparring and pranking( if a regular custom) in terms of physically harming action is not that bothersome because it technically was something u wanted to recieve and then then willingly counter knowing the limits of how far both u and ur partner could take it all so as to not actually initiate any traumatic experience. Despite it being a physical fight ( inclusive of pain) it would feel safe because of the consistent awareness of how ur partner won't intentionally harm you. But the case mentioned above where a physical injury is inflicted out of extreme and uncontrollable 'love' is ABUSE.

The fact that it was done out of too much overwhelming emotions on parts of the abuser does not excuse the fact that it was abuse. See, Percy might 'laugh' after it- but a normal human who just suffered that much shit won't come back to a loved one to accept more affection in form of abuse. They wouldn't prefer to be back flipped rather than hugged warmly by someone who they too ,love too much to express. It's not okay to be an asshole because u can't find the right act of affection because of your overflowing love for someone- no matter what gender such sentiments belong to. Being kind matters, and talking is always an option.

Percabeth shippers will act like being abusive is a flex and get away with it

favorite pictures i've taken hozier + tamino </3 missing them

Poem Bangkok ‘Magical Duality’ fall 2022