1st November 2022

We all say be brave, be proud, be assertive. But we have to understand too that merely words don't heal wounds. Those who have suffered because of this world's unacceptable discrimination can't simply stand up unless you give a hand and your call to be brave is not a helping hand. Please understand that you telling them something they already know but are unable to do makes them more embarrassed of their own trauma. They assume their struggles make them weak and thus don't talk about it to people. But we need to encourage them to believe they are strong. They don't have to be anything, they already are so much and after what misery they survived they deserve to feel victimized, sad, betrayed and hurt. It's only natural.

@erendeer I'm glad people are saying it more. Growing up, it was hard to choose what opinions and ideas to support and rally after until I learnt to think and analyse. I used to think that the actual idea of feminism is about fighting for women's right, it changed when I learnt we're all allowed to expand our ideals rather than be limited by what the majority stands for. Now, my feminism stands for rights for everyone, an existence for everyone where they don't have some basic facilities because it's not normative behaviour- be it Trans-men's reproductive rights, women's rights for bodily autonomy, men's rights to an openly emotional existence; hell I'm up for anybody's right to a fundamentally humane existence.

Something I've observed is that bold challanges regarding rights related to gender make people react.... righteously indignant. And being threatened by the word 'rights' is the prime reason. 'Rights' provide personal choices to people, choices that allow them self expression; but 'Rights' aren't seen as such, not always.

I'm not a conservative, never have been. So I wasn't scared of 'rights' ever, but I will admit rights and men in the same sentence did scare me for a while, only because I was equating all men to the hardcore conservative assholes (just like many men equate all feminists to radical feminists). And giving such men more rights didn't seem safe. But I learnt how wrong I was, how many nuanced personalities men have too.

It's helpful to see people around you as humans rather than just men, women, trans or any other gender. Seeing them as humans allow us to empathize better, and be different that what we stand against.

You know what? Fuck you. I am a "men's rights activist."

I'm for trans men having gender-affirming marks on identification and paperwork and still being able to access OBGYN and pregnancy care, and contraceptives.

I'm for all men's restrooms including baby changing stations, because fathers exist and need to change their babies.

I'm for black men having a voice and being seen and heard, and not assumed to be predators for being both black and men.

I'm for fathers gaining custody of their children in the face of a court system which favors the mother, stating that a child should "never be without their mother," granting custody to even the abusive mothers while taking it away from their fathers.

I'm for boys receiving both 'boy' sex education and 'girl' sex education, so they know how periods and pregnancy actually work.

I'm for boys and men giving and receiving emotional checkups, hugs, and everything soft because boys and men both deserve softness. Boys and men deserve to express their emotions healthily. To know how to express emotions healthily.

Men deserve access to care, patience, love and kindness.

Hi, I'm a woman in a post apocalyptic society and i fuck jason every night with no protection and fear of pregnancy.

hello there i'm a woman in a post apocalyptic society and i wake up every day with perfect eyeliner and zero body hair

ESSAY; adapted from "Hysterical: A Memoirs"

By Elissa Bassist

Light reading.....

This scene right here is much more than Steven sitting in despair. It's literally the heartbreak on his face after a fight. The way the mirror is broken it seems it was punched way too many times in anger. Clearly, the baby Bois have been fighting and arguing. Steven is in pain because of his new reality and the possibility of Marc hurting someone meanwhile Marc is in agony over his role in stopping the "evil madman" and protecting both Steven and Layla from konshu.

The way Marc was waiting with a proud daddy smirk on his face, waiting for Steven so that he can tell him first what a good punch he landed and then go for negotiating surrender of his body.

The brilliant way this scene was put together. Brilliantly acted, shot and edited. And holy shit, the eyes on Oscar Issac! This is absolute gem!

Steven is going to be in shock for a long time for this one! The way he was shocked seeing the divorce papers?

"I would never divorce you."

Or the part where he without hesitation stated.

"You seem really lovely. On the other hand, this Marc? He sounds like a twit, right?"

He's is so precious given the way he talks, oh I'm swooning please!

Covered in sweat, nursing whiskey, broken glass, thrown pillows, messy sheets- poor Marc is a literal mess. So much to protect and fight for, so much to live through especially his own demons and nightmares. He clearly needs a good sleep, a little rest. The way he's looking in the mirror and then turning to take a gulp from his bottle, there's no doubt they did have a bad argument. He's as much of a mess Steven is , maybe more so, he just likes to use knives to express it.

It's almost time for dinner. I have peace at home, on my street, in my corner of this world. But in Iran, who has? In uncountable corners of this world someone is being hurt, being murdered, harassed, tortured, beaten- and the highest probability is of them being a woman, a transgender person, a black person, a economically weak person, a mentally or physically disabled person and the likes of such.

When will it stop?! This relative brutality, this harmful tradition of controlling lives that those in power believe to be less worthy of theirs- when all of us "unworthy ones" die?

PRISON ISN'T FOR CITIZENS WITH UN-HARMING SELF EXPRESSION, IT'S FOR THE LIKES OF MORAL POLICE!!!

19.10.22
 revisiting some python, and increasingly orange walks around town 🍂