I’ve Always Hated How Especially In America We Throw Around The Word Friend Like It’s Kind Of Meaningless.

I’ve always hated how especially in America we throw around the word friend like it’s kind of meaningless. I hate the idea that a friendship is less meaningful than a romantic relationship or that it has to be less passionate or dedicated. Whether we holds hands or kiss or fuck (all of which I believe can be platonic) or whether we just talk about the art we love and try to make each other laugh some part of myself is staked out for you forever, and I want you as a shared participant in my life. I don’t want to treat each other like distractions or interludes between the *real* relationships in our lives. I want friendships where we both know that even if we didn’t talk for a decade we’d always be welcome to show up at the others door, and I think even for allo nonaro people like me we’d be a lot happier and much more content in ourselves if we understood the real value of platonic relationships and didn’t rush to rank them against whatever other kinds of love we might have in our lives.

It is very important to criticize the “Why does everything have to by gay? Can’t they just be friends?” attitude that homophobes have towards gay characters, but it’s possible to do that without saying things like “This character literally did xyz for the other. Friends wouldn’t do that!” or “But character A says character B is the most important person in their life! There’s no way that’s platonic!” or even things like “Actually, they should have sex with each other instead of being ‘just friends.’” Whatever it is you think that friends can’t do, they can. Friends can think of each other as the most important person in their lives. Friends can go through pain for each other, risk their safety for each other, be physically affectionate, rely on each other, and die for each other. Friends can share beds, kiss, or have sex.

Friendship is not a tier below romance.

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