Now Wouldn’t This Be The Perfect Evening Together, Kitten? A Delicious Glass Of Whisky In One Hand

Mmmm. He he. I know it’s going to be one of these two! The wide eyed excitement and craving, or the slack mouthed disbelief! I wonder which it will be tonight as I lean in close to you and whisper what I have planned! Maybe there will be a bit of both!

Sexy is not about looks! It’s about attitude, it’s about self confidence, it’s about desire! It’s about believing in yourself and going after what you want! That’s fucking sexy! I don’t care if you are size 0 or size 30! Show me that attitude, show me that desire! Show me that you are proud of who you are! That’s fucking sexy!

Hi!

First of all I would like to apologize if at some point this question bothers you, but I would like to ask for advice.

My partner (M) and I (F) have been together for a year and a half, he is completely vanilla with strong traditional convictions and I have had a past linked to bdsm and the Dom/Sub relationship.

The truth is that when we first started dating I told him about it and he told me that he didn't care, but that he couldn't see himself hurting someone he loved. I didn't bring it up again because I had that part of me asleep, but now I feel like I need that again and I don't know how to introduce it and make him see that it's not pain, but something that goes beyond that.

Could you please give me some advice?

Thanks in advance.

There is nothing for you to apologize for. I’m happy to do what I can to help and you’re not the only one to have run into this issue before. I’ve even had partners that were very vanilla and I had to adjust to what they were comfortable with. I don’t know that any two (or more) partners ever exactly match their kinks and levels. So you have to find what works for the both of you. It’s a growing process for you both and the key is being able to talk about it. The trouble is that talking is often the hard part for most people. Do you feel you can talk about it with him openly and that he will receive what your saying? That’s going to be key and it will be tough if he can’t meet you that far.

Exploring kinks can be a challenge for the vanilla flavored people and especially if they are the victim of traditional brainwashing. Yes I say brainwashing because that’s what I feel it is. People can be so conditioned by their family, culture, religion, society. It’s hard to shake that. Their brains are so conditioned to think of all kinks as bad and they really can’t process how satisfying those desires can be so freeing and liberating and fulfilling. The key for you to open up his world is going to be doing it by small increments. Think of it as expanding his horizon and comfort zone. You just may have to be a bit patient with him and always check in with each other afterwards.

Most partners really want to please each other. Hopefully yours is the same way. So if you sit him down and explain that this is something you are desiring and that you want to share with him and that it will really turn you on I’d be willing to bet that he will at least listen. Don’t start him out with whips or nipple clamps or anything that will make him feel like he’s hurting you. Start him out with some basic power play maybe. For example tell him that it really turns you on when he tells you to suck him and how, or to manhandle you into what position he wants you to be in. Tell him you love it when he pins you to the bed. Or maybe suggest tying you to the bed. Something soft and easy for him to buy in to. I think once he sees and feels how you react to it that he will be on board to try some more. Then you can gradually introduce more into the equation. Do you guys ever sext? Try sexting with him about a fantasy like that. Seeing if you can get his anticipation up. Guide him towards the things you want because remember that he has no clue about that stuff. His ignorance and lack of openness comes from his conditioning. It’s up to you to break that and guide him. Remember that a d/s relationship also requires the sub to guide the dom in her comfort levels. You’re just unfortunately starting from zero experience.

He’s probably not going to turn into the master dom to your sub but hopefully the two of you can reach a happy middle that gives you some of that d/s experience you crave while opening up his world but still making him feel comfortable. I hope you have some success with it. I’d love to hear how it goes and if the two of you are making progress together. I’ll be sending you both some good d/s vibes!

This is what we need, baby girl! Naked cuddles on the couch. Hours of kisses and love from my yummy, sweet girl. Let me taste those soft lips and feel your wet tongue. I want to feel your desire building as you feel my hunger for your growing. Sweet and tender cuddles turning into burning desire and need. Daddy’s fingers digging into your soft, supple flesh, kissing turning into nibbles and licking and sucking on your yummiest parts. Daddy claiming you, making love to you, until we both explode and collapse in a tangled sticky mess. Desires sated for now as you snuggle in close against me, daddy smothering you in his kisses and love.

Come here and give daddy your kisses and cuddles, baby girl! I want you here in my arms. I want your soft kisses and wet little tongue. I want to feel your body close to mine and I want to stroke and tease and play with you for hours. A lazy day in bed together. Daddy’s fingers making you moan and gasp I taste your lips and whisper sweet and naughty things in your ear between kisses and nibbles. Let me spread you out on the bed and explore every yummy inch of you. Let me taste and lick and nibble every curve, every sensitive spot. Let me mark you with my teeth as you gasp and squirm. Let me show you how much daddy loves and worships your precious little body. Let me show you how beautiful and sexy you are. Let me show you how you set me on fire for you and make me crave you like nothing else! I need you, baby girl! Desperately! So come here and give daddy your cuddles and your kisses and let me show you how much I want you!

The Tease

I know how you love to tease me, baby girl! Sending me your naughty texts throughout the day! An occasional tempting, teasing picture of my baby girl! Biting your lip, flashing me little pieces of your beautiful body! I respond with my own messages, describing in detail exactly what daddy is going to do to you when I get you in my arms! I know you just want to make me burn for you! And it is working ohh so well! You love it when I claim you as soon as I see you! Taking you hard to show you how much I need and crave you! But daddy isn’t going to make it easy for you! I can play that game too until you are dripping and squirming in your seat thinking about me! I’ll have you quivering with excitement before you even see me! So that first touch, first caress will bring your body to the edge! Finally our work days end and we head home to meet! Barely able to focus on anything but the need for each other! You beat me home and I know you’re waiting near the door for me! Waiting to greet me as soon as I enter! Aching for daddy!

As i enter the house I can’t wait a second longer to have you! I grab you and push you back against the wall! Kissing you long and deep! “You’re mine now”, I growl! My fingers slipping into your hair and pinning your head back as I kiss and lick and bite my way along the curve of your neck! You moan and grind against me! I can feel how hungry you are for daddy too! My needy, horny girl! I reach down, grabbing the hem of your sundress and lift it up and over your head, trailing my fingers over your soft flesh as I strip you naked, tossing the dress to the floor! Your little hands fumbling to pull off my shirt, unbuckle my pants and push them down over my ass! I can see how wet you are for me already, your juices glistening on your folds! I ache to slip my fingers through those dripping folds! Ache to push you back and taste your sweet nectar! Ache to thrust inside of you and take you! You wrap your hand around my hard shaft and guide me to your soft folds, rubbing the tip over your little clit, moaning, grinding against me! I lean in, kissing you hard as I lift you up, setting you on the counter and spreading your legs! You guide my tip to your waiting opening! Pausing with anticipation then thrusting slowly into you! We both moan and gasp with the exquisite pleasure as I penetrate you with one deep thrust! Feeling every fucking inch slide into you!

My fingers still locked in your hair, looking into your eyes as I take you on the counter! I thrust into you with long strokes, savoring every inch, every thrust! Your hips rock back and forth to meet me! One hand slipping down to cup your perfect ass, pulling you hard against me! The other hand slipping up to caress your delicious breasts, to pinch and tease your nipples, then slipping up to caress your cheek and back to let my fingers wrap around your throat, pulling your mouth hard against mine as I thrust into you! Fucking you harder now, my desire building, giving up control to it! Feeling you thrusting your hips to meet me, feeling you contracting around me, milking me, both of us edging closer and closer to that release we’ve been aching for all day!

“Not yet, daddy!” You breathe in my ear and push me away and out of you! A wicked little smile on your face as you take my hand and lead me to the bedroom. Your body so beautiful as it sways back and forth, naked except for your little platform heels! So beautiful! Making me crave you even more! Crawling onto the bed on your hands and knees you look back over your shoulder at me. “Like this, Daddy! Please!” You lay your head down and arch your back, thrusting your beautiful ass up into the air for me!

Crawling onto the bed behind you I run my hands over the perfect cheeks of your ass, giving them a good hard smack, making you yelp! Then massaging them, spreading them, opening you up to me! You look so sexy, so sensual! My baby girl, aching to be used by daddy! I want to bend down and taste you and devour you but I have to have you now! I’ve waited all fucking day to take you and daddy needs to be inside of you, fucking you, filling you! I slip up close letting the heft of my cock press against your soft folds, against your little ass! Grinding slowly up and down to let you feel how hard I am for you! Making you wonder if daddy has other plans about which of your yummy little holes he’s planning to fuck! You quickly stop wondering as you feel me grab your hips and thrust into your sweet cunt! My cock stretching you tight as I bury myself deep inside of you! I know you love this position because daddy can fuck you so deep! You love it when daddy takes you like this from behind don’t you baby girl? Pounding into your hungry little cunt! Feeling daddy take control and use you! Feeling how I burn for you! Feeling my desire with every thrust, every throb, every growl and moan as I take my baby girl! 

I know you love it, baby girl, because I can feel you contracting around me! Feel your juices flowing! Feel you rocking your whole body back to meet my every thrust to take me deeper! I can feel the first twinges of your orgasm building! Your body quivering, little spasms! Your sweet little pussy so tight around me, contracting tighter, coming quicker! Your juices running down between us! Then I feel it! That whole body spasm and contraction that I crave, that I ache to feel! The pleasure washing through you as you cum hard for me! Your orgasm washing over you with pleasure as I thrust deep inside of you! Filling you with my need and desire! Can you feel me losing control as you cum, gushing all over my cock! The intensity of it pushing me over the edge! Irresistible! Feel me explode inside of you, baby girl! Cumming with you! Can you feel my hot seed spilling deep into you? Pulsing into you with every thrust until our mixed cum drips down our legs, soaking the bed! Feel me thrusting madly into you as you grind and thrust against me! Draining myself as you cum for me! All our desire and need and want that we have been aching for all day fulfilled! Giving each other total release! Filling each other with it!

Slowly we both come down from the exquisite high! Gasping for breathe, panting against each other, collapsing on the bed together! I roll us onto our side, still inside of you, turning your head so that I can kiss you softly, still thrusting and grinding slowly! We spend the next hour just curled up together, savoring each other and the afterglow of our sex! I take my time caressing every curve and beautiful inch of you! You sigh and curl into me! The perfect end to a long but wonderful day with my baby girl!

Those intimate moments are the best. Getting lost in each others caress. Letting the world melt away as you lay there vibing together, talking about the anything and everything, or just laying in silence while you marvel at the comforting feel of your partner’s body against yours.

We need this baby girl. Hours of kissing and playing. Daddy needs your hungry kisses. To feel your need and desire in those soft lips and wet tongue. I want to feel you get lost in the pleasure as my fingers slip down to stroke and tease you. Feeling your wetness soaking through your panties. My fingers slipping easily through your soft dripping folds. Feel the tip of my finger brushing over your pulsing clit, teasing and caressing. Feel it pushing down and thrusting into you. First one then two fingers, thrusting and stroking, teasing and caressing. How long can you take it baby girl? Will you give daddy your cum like that? Drenching my fingers in your sweet nectar for me to taste as I lick them clean and then share them with a deep kiss. Or should I edge you endlessly? Stroking and teasing but never enough for you to cum. Leaving you gasping and squirming and begging for release. But the tease is on me as well because you can feel my hardness throbbing and aching to escape, wanting to buried deep inside of you and filling my precious girl. It’s such a delicious game we play like this. Desires burning and growing and smoldering until we can barely take it. You trying to hold on until daddy breaks and can’t take it anymore. Knowing that I’m going to fuck you senseless with all this desire and need for you! Aching to feel that connections share. Aching to feel our shared energies swirling and flowing with that desire. This is what we need baby girl! Hours of this! Every fucking day!

Idk if you have a passion for photography? but you always take really great pics

Awww thank you! I’m glad you like them! I do love photography. I mostly take nature and landscape photos of my travels. Sometimes I post them here. I’d love to do more photography if I had the time.

His role is to make her feel safe. To give her a space where she can be her true self. Where she doesn’t have to hide how she feels, what she desires, what’s in her heart. Where she doesn’t have to fear judgement or silly conventions. His role is to release her from those fears. To give her a place where she can thrive as the beautiful individual she is. To teach her and guide her to be the best self she can be. To love her and support her unconditionally.

If you can give her this. Be this for her. Then she may grace you with the gift of her submission! You do not demand it. You do not take it from her. You have to earn it and if you prove yourself worthy it is the most beautiful and precious gift that she can give you!

“His role…to make sure she doesn’t over think.”

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